Being Someone Great

*Note from the editor: This week we’re so happy to have John, The Daddy Yo Dude, with us again! His post this week is on “greatness”. What will you be remembered for when you’re gone? What sort of legacy will you leave your children to pass on to their children once they’re gone? These are things I don’t often think about. Thanks for a wonderfully written, thought provoking post John! Check out Dad posts every Friday, here at Everyday Childhood.

All fathers have their own fears for their children when they are born. Mine were the fear they wouldn’t love me, the fear they were “breakable” and the most defining fear for me: The fear they would end up just like me. Not physically, but in the sense of who they would become later on in life.

My reasoning behind this fear: I am 28 years old, a college dropout (though headed back to school this fall); working at Applebee’s making only $1.25 cents more than I did when I started over three years ago. I really still don’t know what I want to do with the rest of my life. I know what I would love to do, but blogging and writing for a living and sustainable income is not easy at all. I am constantly trying to be a mediator in a battle of paycheck vs. bills every 2 weeks, and it is an exhausting battle.

Not the best way to be living, although don’t get me wrong, I know I am a lot better off than a lot of people, and I’ve been a lot lower in my own life. I have seen my life bring me up, down, further down, and back again. I have been hardly known, and well known. I have been nobody and somebody. Throughout the journey I have really learned to appreciate things like electricity, water, a roof over my head, and of course, having my family near me.

I know when I die most people won’t remember my name, or where I have worked, or even what I was most known for. I do hope people will remember what kind of spirit I had (if they think it’s a kind one) and what I did in my life for other people. I hope that there will be kind words spoken and maybe a few tears shed. It would be nice to know that when I am gone, I am remembered for at least a little something.

For my children, though, I do not want them to grow up and have to struggle. I do not want them to have to know the frustration, the stress, and the strain on life that exists in the world. I want them to go on to much better things than I have in my life. I don’t want to watch as they go down the same roads I have been in my life. I don’t wish for them to be famous movies stars, athletes, or musicians. I don’t wish for them to have a large bank account that affords them the riches they will never need. But I wish for their greatness.

Greatness defined: When my children have grown old and passed, I want people to remember them. I want them to have been people of integrity, people of immeasurable kindness, and people of unshakable conviction. I want people to stand around and remember them as people who always put family first and did what they had to for their family. I want them to be known the world around for their acts of love and their words of truth. I want them to shine a light on the world that will never fade, never grow dim, and never be unseen. I want them to shower the world with a love that can be felt by all and a greatness that can really be admired. Not for their worth, or talents, or products.

The future could be a long ways off. Nobody knows for sure. I may be here to see this post go live, I may not. Have I been someone great? I don’t know. In my opinion, no I have not. There are a lot of things I could have or could still do different. One thing I know is that no matter when I go, I want to see my children becoming great. I want to know that no matter when I pass, my children have learned from my example, and take those teachings and expand on them. Hope, integrity, love, and light. Four words I hope will be said of them. Then I will know they have become someone great.

Comments

  1. Jeff says:

    Nice to see greatness defined in a meaningful way. Your kids are already further down the road to greatness than most, for having you in their life to guide and teach.

  2. What a wonderful way to lead your children up the HILL:

    Hope
    Integrity
    Love
    Light

    Which, I believe, will help as they go up and down the many hills of life!