The Unselfish Act of Love

It’s Valentine’s Day and I thought I’d take a moment to get something off my chest. Love is unselfish. There. I said it.

I’ve been in the field of sales and marketing for the majority of my adult life. It’s a field that’s filled with “strings attached” relationships. The relationships aren’t give and take… they are take and take some more. Not always… but even still… the whole I’ll scratch your back IF you scratch mine mentality… has always bothered me. But I roll with it. That’s how the game is played.

For me, relationships are built on friendships and friendships are built on trust. The best relationships I have are with the people that I trust. I trust them because I know that I don’t have to DO anything to be loved. And in turn… they just have to be themselves.

So… I’ll say it again. Love is unselfish. Real love isn’t the result of who you know or what events you can get your friends into. It’s not how popular you are or who you work with. And real love certainly doesn’t leave you behind once those selfish gains are attained.

Love remains when all else has gone.

How do you love? What do you expect in return… if anything?


  1. Jess says:

    Great post lover face!

    It takes for less energy to love unconditionally than it does when you have an ulterior motive.

    Happy V-Day love! xoxo

  2. Jess says:

    FAR less energy. FAR.

    Apparently I’m in a constant love-hate relationship with spelling and grammar…

  3. Fiona says:

    I wouldn’t turn down a back scratch from you… lol It’s funny reading what you wrote about sales and marketing – there are times when the reality of the ick makes me feel sick to my stomach but at the end of the day being centered and loving is where I find peace. XXXXXXO happy v-day ;)

  4. Sara says:

    Kelly, you’re not the only one who sees that there are different levels of ‘love’ when it comes to relationships. It’s frustrating to see people clawing their way through life on a path of broken relationships. But remember this, we all leave this life with exactly what we came with. Make the most of what is in between! <3 U, Sara

  5. Jacque says:

    Love what you wrote! If more people lived by this there would be a lot more love and kindness in the world and a lot less hate.

  6. Kelly says:

    Thanks for the kind comments guys!Jacque… you are so right. But unfortunately it’s those of us that give that end up being stepped on. Sara… a path of broken relationships is exactly what’s left behind. Unfortunate, but true! I’d much prefer to not burn bridges and help out when I can.