Under Siege: Adventures of a Stay at Home Dad

Welcome David,  a new monthly contributor to our little Friday Dad’s column. He wanted to give writing a shot and I wanted to hear what he had to say. So enjoy! -xo Kelly

Last week, I spent the evening with Syd, my 5-year-old daughter, at a Father & Daughter Dance fundraiser for her school. I’m still recovering. It was pretty much exactly what I thought it would be: Syd running around the event with all of her friends, screaming, chasing each other and having a great time in general, while I watched from a distance and sat in amazement that that little blonde leading the pack, giving orders to the other kids, and running much faster in her dress shoes than I’d imagined she could…that’s my little girl. That happens a lot actually, that stunned feeling, that realization that “Wow, I’m THAT little girls Daddy.”

Syd’s not the one that made me the Stay at Home Dad, though. That
opportunity came to me when Syd’s sisters, twins Em and Maddie,
arrived on the scene about a year and a half ago. That’s when my
education really began. With Sydney, I got to spend every morning with
her as I took her to daycare on my way to work. It was always a fun
experience. We’d sing songs on the way (They Might Be Giants “Here
Come the 1,2,3’s” was on high rotation) I got into the habit of taking
a picture of her everyday as I was taking her to class…it became a
part of our routine. Even her teacher would remind me when I’d forget,
that it was picture time. As a result, I have a great time line in
photographs of her. With the twins, however, I haven’t done that,
mostly because it’s “Go! Go! Go!” from the moment they wake up until
the moment they go to bed, so my picture taking is much more random…

Typically, with all the action and drama of getting Sydney ready for
and to school as well as getting the twins going, it’s completely nuts
here, all day long. Amid all this chaos I forget to stop and realize
that I’m pretty luck to be home with them. It wasn’t planned. It was
an unexpected set of circumstances (a unexpected layoff, a horrible
job market and then the ultrasound tech’s announcement that we were
having twins, combined with the outrageous expense of daycare) that
conspired to make me the Stay at Home Dad that I am today. It was the
right decision, but I still sometimes struggle through that male ego
thing that says to me that I should be out there, be the earner, be
the breadwinner, but when it comes down to it, I love that I get to
spend this time with the girls, and I’m learning the tricks of the
trade, as well as encountering new challenges all the time. I’m sure
I’ll be sharing those along the way. I’ll try to bring some other
things to the table as well.

I’m always curious, and a little scared, about what tomorrow is going
to bring. It’s an interesting ride, that’s for sure, but for now, I’m
a father of 3 girls, I’m surrounded by women…My name is Dave and I’m
Under Siege.


  1. Jenna says:

    Awwww, that was so sweet. I’m not gonna lie, you made my eyes a lil damp.

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  3. Cass says:

    Heh heh. “Three Girls and a Daddy” can be the title of your eventual dramedy–you’re welcome.

  4. Jacque says:

    Very cute! I like the ‘Under Siege’ description. :) It reminds me of my Father-in-law texting my husband when we found out we were having another girl, ‘We are being over ran’. Yes, my Father-in-law will soon have a total of 4 Granddaughters and 1 Grandson. :)

  5. Ami says:

    “Under Siege” is a great title! Some days that could apply to parenting in general.

  6. Jocelyn says:

    So sweet! You are the best dad. xo