One thing that you come to realize as a parent is that you’re always pressed for time. No matter the age of your child, there just isn’t enough time in the day to do it all. While I was standing there changing my son’s dirty diaper last night (which was terrible smelling!) I thought when was the last “me” time?! I love my wife and I try to be a good husband by offering her as much alone time as possible. She needs time to plan outfits, go shopping, and get her nails done now and then. It just hit me that it had been weeks (maybe months) since I had a boys night out.
Staying home and watching some TV or getting 5 minutes on the computer isn’t time to relax, isn’t time to process, its just filler time – white noise so to speak. I enjoy a few tv shows but the fact I consider that “my” time is really kind of sad. I love being with my son but I also love that I have friends and live in an amazing place where there is so much to do or see! I haven’t been to a gallery or art show in years (used to be monthly for me).
I approached my wife with idea that we need a new schedule (because really if it wasn’t for our calendar – I’m pretty sure we would have forgotten the kid at home by now [I kid, I kid] I proposed that we make a weekly date night and that two nights a week we dedicate to our personal nights one for her and one for me. Do with them what you will – hang with friends, go to that happy hour with co-workers, get something done with no hassles and no deadlines of being home. This is also really important since its the holiday season and if my wife wants any type of a surprise gift – I need the time to find and surprise her with it!
So remember, taking time to smell the roses is time for a mental holiday (even just for a few hours) but if nothing more might return the favor of a surprise gift and don’t we all want that!